As I’ve mentioned before, I don’t really see things in terms of good or bad or right or wrong.
Things are as they are, and if I cannot control or change them, I don’t really have any business putting value judgments on them. These things are part of nature or the universe or reality or God’s Will or my karma or simple chance, and sometimes shit happens. Whatever you want to call it, they are beyond me and are therefore beyond my opinion of them.
Understanding this is helpful when dealing with situations where things do not go my way, which happens often.
Problems arise when I take what would be most convenient for me, and start to believe that that is how things should be, when I assign this idea of rightness to what I want. It makes no sense, and it’s silly, and it causes nothing but suffering.
When I embrace everything as it is, obstacles become opportunities and problems become a matter of perspective. It’s simple.
What do you do when something gets in the way of what you want?
What are you labeling as should when it should really be want?
How different would things look if you accepted the things you cannot control?
If you really want to delve into this concept, check out The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday.
Have a great weekend.