Dying Daily #269: Beneath the Wheel

The number of people I meet who live in a constant state of unworthiness/self-hatred/self-criticism/general self-loathing is really heartbreaking sometimes. I know that I am probably going to encounter more people with this struggle because of my line of work and because of the part of the country I live in, but I think this is a general affliction many people …

Dying Daily #268: Planning for the Future, in the Moment

Follow-through, as we’ve discussed over the past few days, is important in life. We all need to have plans and something larger we are working for, something we believe in. So how does this work with a mindfulness- based lifestyle, one that calls for us to live in the moment and to to let things be as they are? There …

Dying Daily #267: Why I Care

“Why do you care if people follow-through on things?” A few reasons. For one, a lack of follow-through is one of the primary things I see disrupting relationships around me. This is, usually, a female losing faith and respect for the male in her life, but it works both ways. A lack of follow-through cultivates a lack of trust and …

Dying Daily #266: How to Follow-Through

We talked about follow-through yesterday, something that is distinctly lacking in many of our lives. I still struggle with it when I get focused on too many different ideas. So what can we do about this? There are a few things. Establish accountability. This is a dirty word these days for some reason, we feel like it infringes on our …

Dying Daily #265: Following Through

If I were to name one of the things I most frequently see plaguing many people, especially young men, it would be follow-through. I see it in people with a dozen good ideas but zero execution, people with every intention of making a positive change in their lives and, very often, as the reason why people do not trust their partners. …

Dying Daily #264: Fear of Missing Out

I hear a lot of people talk about the fear of missing out, and it even has its own little acronym now. It’s easy to struggle with FOMO in a world of social media and non-stop internet saturation. Your friend is on another cruise, your ex is out with all those people. Everything in the world is so much closer …

Dying Daily #263: Still Cynical About Cynicism

I wrote about my dislike of cynicism a long time ago. We’re talking about cynicism in its modern usage here, not the Ancient Greek school of philosophy. That one is actually kind of useful. I said I don’t buy into cynicism as a valid way of engaging reality, and that I think it’s a cheap way out of having to …

Dying Daily #262: Gratitude for Teenage You

We’ll take a break from gratitude for a while after this one. I still have a big list of things to be grateful for, but it might be nice to have some variety. Man, this one is tough for me. Being a teenager sucks, and it was probably the worst time of my life. I was miserable, there was something …

Dying Daily #261: Gratitude for Toddler You

My word count on these keeps creeping back up, I will try to reign that in. Being a human is hard, the process of becoming one seems to be even harder. I look at babies and little kids, and I am amazed by everything they have to do on this path of becoming a full human being and doing all the …

Dying Daily #260: Gratitude for Everyone Who Came Before

We live pretty easy lives these days. We drive where we need to go, we have safe food at our fingertips, we can talk to people all over the world. I don’t even have to physically walk into my bank anymore unless there’s a problem, like someone stealing my debit number and buying a bunch of Walmart gift cards and cigarettes …